She shared a very personal, still heart-breakingly fresh even though it happened 3 years ago, story with me. To help me. There are some amazing people out there.
She has been fighting breast cancer for 3 years. She was diagnosed just after learning she was pregnant with her second child. She had to terminate in order to save her own life, so her toddler would have a mother.
Her son is in my son's kindergarten class. When he heard that my son's baby had died, he took his mother to the store, and bought 2 stuffed toys for my son - one to keep, one to bury with the baby. Like he had done at his sisters funeral. There are some amazing kids out there.
My son cried. He was so happy to know that he wasn't the only one with a spirit baby that you can't hold. Now he can talk about Christopher without crying.
I cried. It was so wonderful to talk to someone, in person, that knew what it was like to lose an unborn baby. I apologised for taking, and not giving - I didn't console her very well, just took everything i could get. She said that it was okay, that was the stage I was at.
That mother still grieves hard, every day. It was so hard for her to talk to me. And I'm so thankful that she did.
Isn't it amazing how certain people come into your life at exactly the right time when you need them, and give you exactly what you need?
ReplyDeleteAngels. I've personally known at least two of them. I think you just met one too.
i'm so glad that you two have found each other. A shared experience can be so healing.
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